I find myself journaling about my relationship a lot, and it makes sense. After all, I probably spend more time with my partner than anyone else in my life! While freestyle journaling is awesome, sometimes I want more specific prompts to help me work through feelings I’m having about my partner or our relationship. Whether you’re having relationship anxiety and need an outlet, or want to focus more on the good in your relationship, having prompts to guide the journaling session can help keep you on focus. Here are five specific relationship journaling prompts designed to not only help with improved self understanding but also emotional intimacy with your partner.
Prompt #1: What Are Your Love Languages?
Describe your primary love languages and reflect on specific instances where you felt immensely loved and understood by your partner. How did they express their affection using your love language? Describe times when you might have misunderstood each other’s gestures of love. Consider ways you can align your actions more closely with each other’s love languages, fostering a deeper connection and more intentional expressions of love.
As with all of these prompts, feel free to do them with your partner and share what you have written with one another once you’re done.
Prompt #2: What is Your Biggest Relationship Fear?
In your journal, explore your fears and insecurities within the relationship. Try to be as honest with yourself as possible. Recall situations that triggered these emotions and how they impacted your interactions with your partner. Encourage your partner to do the same and exchange your written reflections. Discuss ways to support each other through vulnerabilities and fears, nurturing a safe environment for open communication.
Prompt 3: What Are Your Biggest Milestones?
Pinpoint the pivotal moments and milestones in your relationship over the days, months, or years. Reflect on how you navigated these moments together. What did these experiences reveal about each other? Discuss how these events shaped your relationship and share the lessons learned. This should help foster a deeper appreciation for how you both worked to make the life you now share together.
Prompt #4: What Do You Love Most About Me?
If you can, try to consistently journal about specific qualities, actions, or gestures of your partner that evoke feelings of gratitude and admiration. Share these writings with each other as much as possible – who doesn’t like to hear about how much they’re appreciated? This practice should reinforce your emotional bond by emphasizing the strengths and positive aspects of your relationship. This is especially helpful for people who have a tendency to dwell on the negative.
If you want to continue gratitude journaling as a daily practice, check out these 100 ideas of what to write in a gratitude journal.
Prompt #5: What are Your Relationship Goals?
Use your journal as a tool to envision the future of your relationship. Write down shared goals, dreams, and intentions for your partnership. Explore how you both aim to support each other’s growth and the steps required to make your goals a reality.
Books with Relationship Journaling Prompts I Recommend:
Sometimes it’s easier to use a pre-made journal, so you can skip straight to the writing. If you’re looking for a journal that comes loaded with relationship journaling prompts for you & your partner, check out my recommendations below!
BestSelf Couples Journal for Him and Her: 13 Week Therapy Workbook to Grow Love Together
Conclusion
These five prompts have helped guide me in understanding emotions and nurturing intimacy with my partner, and I hope they’ll help you too. They offer structure in exploring feelings, showing gratitude, and strengthening bonds. Happy journaling!
